I have a colleague at work, Gene Purdie, whom I have never met in person, but for whom I find myself having a great deal of respect. Just the other day in our staff meeting, we were engaging in a holiday game over the video chat, and the question posed to us was whether or not we’ve ever expressed disappointment, or even anger, for a gift we were given that we didn’t much care for. Nearly everyone admitted that they had, but not Gene.
When asked to elaborate on his answer, Gene stated, in what felt like a genuine and spontaneous manner, that he “always tries to put himself in the perspective of the gift giver.” This simple statement, which is a pithy embodiment of empathy, really struck me. It reminded me, once again, of the self-centered frame of reference from which I so often operate – a frame which, at times, seems ineluctable (and, to some degree, perhaps is), but which is also capable of being transcended. And, in being transcended, it can be, through practice, translated into a more established way of being, as it appears to be with Gene.
Gene, I look forward to the day when we can meet in person, and share more of our experiences and perspectives with each other. I admire the way you carry yourself, and I am both touched, and challenged by, your perspective on things. Thanks for being who you are, and enjoy this holiday weekend with your family.
10th Leper Gratitude 